how did blaming the victims become fandom's latest fad?

[erilyn]

I am so appalled and disgusted by this that I can't not say something.

Whatever your position on warnings, I hope we can all agree that commenting on a frank and brutal post from a survivor to contradict her account of the abuse she suffered and to say that the survivor is trying to paint herself as more of a victim IS GOING SO FAR INTO UNACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOUR THAT ANY LINES THAT WERE CROSSED ARE NO LONGER VISIBLE.

(Warning: Very explicit discussion of sexual assault and the nature, anatomy, cause & effect of triggers. Is itself triggery.)

Well, aukestrel did just that to impertinence. And then deleted her comment, the fucking coward.

And I hoped cynatnite was about as low as you could get, when she decided to lecture survivors on how best to manage their PTSD (even if they don't have it), based on research she did for her fanfic, and how her characters coped in said story.

If you don't find her behaviour utterly despicable, I'd love to hear why. Because I can't comprehend anyway that it would not be.

ETA: lcsbanana has done a far more comprehensive calling out of terrible behaviour.

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[lydia-petze.livejournal.com]

I've been staying out of this one because - honestly, a) old wank is old and b) my visceral feeling about it all is I hate spoilers on fic like I hate them for anything else BUT I KNOW I DON'T HAVE ANY RIGHT TO BITCH ABOUT THIS AND I AM PERFECTLY OK WITH IT. Really. I can hate fic spoilers on the inside, which I can't control, and STFU about it on the outside, which I can. However, this shit has turned nasty and this is my first comment on it (this wank around, anyway).

Having said that, I've had a fairly low opinion of AuK for a very long time, ever since her holier-than-thou behaviour on the old dS lists - there are a few reasons I ended up leaving dS fandom, and her and her clique were near the top - but I was never really sure if it was just a personality issue. Hey, now at least I know I was right. Wow.

[erilyn.livejournal.com]

I never encountered her much, but I remember you guys having a crap time dealing with her.

And people can hide warnings, so that people can choose to be warned/spoiled or not. It's so easy, and makes everyone happy, and we can stop having pointless hurtful arguments over and over and over and over and over again.

[lydia-petze.livejournal.com]

I never encountered her much, but I remember you guys having a crap time dealing with her.

Not so much crap for me, but I just found her so condescending and passive-aggressive, and that was only in discussions regarding pairings - nothing like this. This is completely out there.

I don't get what's so hard about hiding a warning. They seem to be perfectly OK with sparkly text and banners and prettying up their LJs. Whiting out a warning, though? Rocket science.